Sometimes the work of ministry seems filled with conflict, which can make the pastor’s calling difficult and frustrating. Most pastors are highly committed and many are driven to care deeply for others. This is a great strength, but it can become a tremendous weakness when the pastor attempts to satisfy all of the expectations—fair and unfair—of the congregation.
As a result of this misguided caring, two things happen. First, leaders become exhausted, sometimes destroying their lives and those of their families. Second, leaders send the wrong message to their congregations: “Yes, I am the one who can heal your wounds salve your pain and make your life work.”
In order to thrive in ministry we must learn how to discern between legitimate and illegitimate expectations and how to help others have the same discerning wisdom. [Read more…]